(Mary Ann Evans)
The REAL meaning of low self esteem, AND HOW TO BEAT IT!
Don’t worry.
It plagues everyone. It’s not just you.
We’re not always aware of it. We don’t always admit it – not even to ourselves.
But we ALL struggle with low self esteem to one extent or another. It’s the human condition.
What’s the meaning of low self esteem?
I can think of a few meanings.
Low self esteem is the greatest obstacle to happiness you will ever face. It’s something we’re all fighting on some level, no matter what we show to the outside world.
It’s something that can drive men to rob, murder, and enslave. It can make beautiful women sell their bodies for a few hundred dollars per scene.
We’ll do anything to hide it.
We dress in fancy clothes, and buy cars worth as much as a house.
We get drunk and high, hoping to briefly feel the self-confidence we only wish we could feel while sober.
We sleep around, sometimes breaking people’s hearts just to prove we’re attractive enough to break hearts.
Meaning of Low Self Esteem:
Low self esteem is the product of deception.
It comes from the lies people told us about how dumb we were, or how ugly. These lies had little bearing in reality, but we believed them. In doing so, we became complicit in our own demise.
We repeated those lies to ourselves, over and over, for years, until we forgot where they came from. We forgot the words; we don’t hear them anymore.
But the feelings became a part of us.
Low self esteem is that tiny black spot on our skin.
We should have treated it years ago, but we didn’t.
We were too ashamed to show anybody. We hoped that if we ignored it, it might go away on its own.
But it didn’t go away.
It just grew and grew, and became cancerous. And we STILL try to ignore it, because acknowledging it might spill a whole cauldron of boiling emotions we’d rather not deal with.
Meaning of Low Self Esteem:
Low self esteem is an open wound.
It prevents us from letting anyone get too close.
If they got close, they might take advantage of our wounds. They might pour salt in them. They might see them as a weaknesses and lose respect for us.
So we hide them, especially from anyone we care about. Intimacy becomes dangerous.
God forbid anyone see what was festering beneath the surface; they might be repulsed. They might not love us anymore.
So we act cold and unaffected. It works; everyone thinks we’re strong. But they get hurt, too, because they think we don’t care.
Low self esteem makes it hard for us to tell anyone we love them...
…even though we do.
It’s the doubt that they could ever love us back. It’s the fear that even if they did, they’d withdraw that love in a heartbeat if we ever did something wrong.
Low self esteem is why we blow up when someone criticizes us, or gently points out the mistakes we’ve made. When you’re insecure, even the gentlest criticism feels like outright rejection, so we retaliate. We can’t be wrong.
Being wrong would give credence to our worst insecurities. It might give our loved ones the final excuse they need to abandon us forever.
Meaning of Low Self Esteem:
Low self esteem is what keeps us isolated.
It makes us avoid long term relationships like the plague. Those require vulnerability – a trait we despise.
We’d have to admit to the person we’re falling for that we’re interested in them beyond just sex, and that we’d be crushed if they didn’t feel the same.
Low self esteem is what keeps us poor.
It stops us from asking for raises and promotions at work.
It makes us scared to take on responsibility, or to manage people. It stops us from venturing out on our own.
The stakes are too high; the potential fall too steep. What if we failed? Everyone would know; then how would we feel about ourselves?
Most importantly…
Meaning of Low Self Esteem:
Low self esteem is the DRAGON you must slay in order to reach the next level!
Like all dragons, it’s guarding precious treasure: all the self confidence you’ve ever wanted. The ability to love deeply. To have real relationships. To be vulnerable. To accept compliments. To feel them.
To take chances, and to reap the rewards. To become immune to peer pressure, and societal manipulation. To become your happiest and strongest self, not just for you, but for everyone you love.
That dragon is hoarding the life you want – the life you DESERVE – and it won’t surrender it without a fight.
Fight it! Slay it! Banish it to the furthest reaches of the nether realm.
When the smoke clears, no matter what happens in your life afterward, no matter how long you live, you’ll always be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say you that slayed your dragon.
You beat low self esteem. Most people never get that far, but you did.
It was the single most important victory in your life – the one that made so many other victories possible.
Here's how to do it!
You’ve been searching for a way to kill this dragon for years. You’ve tried everything, but nothing seemed to work.
I’ll show you the way. It’s easier than you think!
Remember how I said mentally replaying insults got you into this mess? Well, repetition can get you out it, too!
Meaning of Low Self Esteem:
The key
The more you repeat any thought, the more it becomes a habit to repeat that thought.
If you just repeat thoughts about how great you are, in time, you’ll begin to believe it. You’ll start behaving as if those statements were true.
You’ll walk, talk, and act like someone with high self esteem – not because you’re pretending, but because you actually have it. You’ve programmed it into yourself, so you feel it!
Other people will respond to you accordingly. Your entire vibe will change. You’ll be happier, and your life will get better.
When you use affirmations, you’re create your own self fulfilling prophecy.
Everyone uses them.
Triathletes, fighter pilots, and brain surgeons use affirmations.
Military generals, tight rope walkers, and world champion mixed martial artists use affirmations.
People from all walks of life are using this technique to think and perform better, and you can, too! Program yourself to have high self esteem, and you will have high self esteem.
Stop thinking of yourself as loser. Stop telling yourself you’re not as smart as others, or not as attractive as others. Drown out deceptive thoughts by affirming the opposite, over and over, until the new thoughts take hold.
You don’t have low self esteem! Not anymore.
What you have is a temporary collection of negative mental habits that are about to be OBLITERATED, and replaced with everything you need to become a more confident, stronger, happier person.
Meaning of Low Self Esteem:
The Method
Print out the PDF at the end of this article. Stick it in a binder.
Read these affirmations every single day, over and over, for 5 minutes straight. (You can also watch the video.)
Do it somewhere quiet and free from distraction. Silence your phone’s ringer.
Set a countdown timer, so your mind will be free to concentrate on what you’re reading, instead of frequently wondering how much time has elapsed. Forget about time! Only the affirmations matter.
If you’re serious about finally beating low self esteem forever, then these are the most important 5 minutes of your day.
After reading the affirmations for a minute or two, you’ll start to feel calm, almost like you’re meditating. That’s great!
It’s a sign that your active brain is quieting down, and your subconscious mind is quietly internalizing the new programming.
Keep going!
5 minutes is the minimum, but the more time you spend repeating affirmations to yourself, the better!
Meaning of Low Self Esteem:
How will you know if it’s working?
You’ll feel better.
You’ll walk taller, and speak louder.
You won’t excessively criticize yourself. You’ll stop making self deprecating jokes, and you’ll feel less inclined to make jokes about others.
You’ll feel smarter, stronger, and more capable than you ever have before. Goals and interests you once thought unattainable will suddenly seem possible. One by one, you’ll begin going after them.
That might mean learning a new language, or starting a business. It might mean getting in shape, or finding a deep, committed relationship with someone you love.
It might mean calling a relative you’ve been feuding with for 20 years, and telling them you’re sorry.
When you have high self esteem, there are no limits to what you can accomplish. All it takes is the right programming, and you can achieve everything you ever wanted.
Do the affirmations. Get your mind right, and the rest of your life will follow.
Good luck!
Affirmations for
Self Esteem
- I love who I am!
- I’ve got a ton of confidence!
- I’m smart and capable. I can achieve anything!
- I’m a very attractive person. I love how I look!
- I’ve got a high self esteem!
- I make mistakes, but I always LEARN from them.
- I’m a good person. I’ve got a good heart.
- I’m fun to be around! It’s easy to love a person like me.
- I’ve got a ton of potential in life!
- I see the good in myself, and in everyone else, too.
Once you're done with these affirmations, keep building your self esteem by targeting these specific areas:
-Tommy