What is the cause of low self esteem?
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You could have so much more.
You could have more friends, more money, and more happiness. You could have more respect.
But you undermine yourself constantly. You fail to take chances, both socially and financially, so you never reap the rewards.
Why?
Because on some level, you don’t feel like you deserve it. You don’t think it’s possible for someone like you to succeed on such a grand scale.
You’ve got low self esteem, and whether you realize it or not, it’s hindering every aspect of your life. Your finances. Your relationships. It’s even effecting your health.
In this article, I’ll explain where your low self esteem came from, and how to cure it permanently.
This cure is thousands of years old, takes only a few minutes, and doesn’t cost anything.
Intrigued yet? You should be!
What is the cause of low self esteem:
Multiple Causes
It comes from being made to feel like garbage. That can happen in a number of different ways.
Classmates
Were you bullied in school?
Kids can be cruel. They’re cute as toddlers, but by the time they reach grade school, they can smell weakness the way sharks smell blood.
If you were ever called dumb, ugly, a nerd, or a loser, those thoughts can stay with you deep into adulthood.
You might think you’ve forgotten these incidents, but your unconscious mind never forgets. All of the pain and humiliation still exists inside of you. It causes you to behave, and especially to feel, as if every one of those insults were true.
Family
Siblings
Were you ever picked on by an older brother or sister you looked up to?
As a child, it’s natural to look up to the “big kids.” It’s natural to imitate them, to follow them around, and to value everything they say.
The more you looked up to them, the more you took it to heart when they rejected you.
When they called you “dumb,” or “ugly,” a “loser,” a part of you believed them. You felt it in your bones when they refused to hangout with you. Sometimes that feeling never goes away.
Parents
Your parents may have favored your sibling, leaving you with an inferiority complex that’s been difficult to shake.
They may have neglected you. Initially, it was probably due to financial constraints and the need to work long hours. In time, it might have become an emotional estrangement, which further isolated you and made you feel even less valuable.
If you were the a child of divorce, you might have felt abandoned by the parent you didn’t live with.
Sometimes moms and Dads, still wrestling with their own demons, call their kids names and tell them they’ll never amount to anything.
No matter how rebellious kids are, they value what adults say. Call a kid a scumbag, and he’ll think he’s a scumbag.
What is the cause of low self esteem:
Despite all of that, your REAL adversary isn’t who you think it is.
These things might not have been a major problem for your self esteem, except for the fact that they programmed you to start thinking negative thoughts about yourself.
Because they hurt so bad, you replayed the insults and rejections in your mind over and over. After countless repetitions, you began to define yourself as unintelligent, unattractive, and unworthy.
You became your own worst enemy.
You want to know what is the cause of low self esteem? You are! You’re the cause.
Your childhood antagonists may have hurt you dozens of times, but you’ve been putting yourself down for YEARS.
You’ve been doing it for so so long, it might actually feel normal to dislike yourself.
It’s NOT normal.
You don’t remember everything bad that’s ever happened to you, but the wounds are still there, deep within your subconscious. They’re still controlling you.
Get rid of them!
What is the cause of low self esteem:
The Past Doesn’t Matter.
All the abuse you’ve endured. All of the rejections. All the self-inflicted psychological torture. It’s all in the past now, and the past doesn’t matter.
What does matter is that you start correcting the problem right now! It’s easy, as long as you understand this fact:
Repetition got you into this mess, and repetition can get you out.
Affirmations are a way of over-riding all the years of negative self-programming. It’s a way of flooding your brain with new thoughts that actually make you feel good about yourself. The key is repetition.
Think anything often enough, and it becomes a habit to think it.
You can make it a habit to think of yourself as smart, productive, and valuable. You can make it a habit to think of yourself as someone who deserves to be loved and respected.
With enough repetition, you can program yourself to think anything.
But the really AMAZING thing is this:
By changing how you think, you change how you behave.
Tell yourself you’re successful enough times, and you’ll start to act in ways that inevitably result in success: reading, investing, starting businesses, experimenting, learning.
Tell yourself you’re beautiful enough times, and you start to feel beautiful.
And then you’ll start to groom yourself better, dress better, stand taller, and speak louder. Your whole vibe will change for the better, making you magnetic!
It will literally make you more beautiful.
What is the cause of low self esteem:
Why do affirmations work?
Affirmations operate on your subconscious mind.
Your subconscious doesn’t know truth from fiction. That’s why your heart races and your palms sweat whenever you watch a horror movie – while sitting in a perfectly safe, air-conditioned theater.
It actually thinks you’re being attacked by monsters, so it makes you feel and behave accordingly. It’s automatically activating your sympathetic nervous system, trying to get you to run away as fast as possible.
The subconscious mind evolved to help us survive by overriding conscious thought with lightening fast feelings and behaviors. It doesn’t differentiate truth from fiction. It just accepts data, and tries to make you respond accordingly.
If you could just alter your subconscious mind – if you could mold it and shape it to be how you wanted it to be – you could get yourself to do all kinds of amazing things, like feel better about yourself.
Affirmations are a way of achieving this.
Again, tell yourself you’re beautiful enough times, and you’ll begin to feel beautiful.
Tell yourself you’re successful enough times, and you’ll actually become successful.
What is the cause of low self esteem:
The Method
Read the affirmations at the bottom of this page for 5 minutes straight, every single day.
You can do this by watching the video below, or by printing the PDF sheet and reading it somewhere free from distraction.
If you’re using the PDF, make sure to set a countdown timer so that you can concentrate on the affirmations, instead of constantly wondering how much time has elapsed.
5 minutes is the absolute minimum, but the more time you can spend reading these affirmations, the sooner you’ll fix your self esteem.
After a minute or two, you should feel a change in your consciousness taking place. You’ll feel a little more relaxed; a little more at ease. The background chatter of your mind will quiet down as you read the positive statements to yourself over and over.
These are all signs that you’re unconscious mind is being accessed; that it’s absorbing the new data, and that it’s only a matter of time before that data overwhelms your old way of thinking.
What is the cause of low self esteem:
How do you know it’s working?
You know the affirmations are working when you start to feel better about yourself.
You’ll feel less insecure around other people and more social.
You’ll stop ruminating on all the negative experiences you’ve had, and get excited about all the great things your future holds.
Your confidence will increase, and with it will come an increased productivity and ambitiousness that can only lead to resounding success in whatever field you choose.
Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves.
Do the affirmations.
Improve your self esteem, you improve your WHOLE LIFE.
Good luck!
-Tommy
Affirmations to
improve Self Esteem
- I’m smart and talented!
- I love who I am. I wouldn’t want to be anyone else in the world!
- I take pride in my looks. I’m an extremely attractive person!
- I’ve got high expectations for myself! I have tremendous potential.
- I’ve got high self esteem, because I’m an amazing person!
- I’m the hero of my own story!
- I’m smart and charismatic.
- There’s no one else in the world who looks like me. I’m one of a kind!
- I love being me!
- I’m ambitious and successful in everything I do.